So many of us remain living at our edge never being able to step into our true selves and realise our full potential, because we are held back by our limiting beliefs. 'I'm not good enough' or 'I'm not worthy enough', 'I can't do that' or 'that's unrealistic'. Its difficult when something goes wrong or someone treats you in a negative way but we should always remember there will always be the downs. We must remember to stay positive and remember we can actually do anything we want to do, we all have the power to create the life we dream of for ourselves with a little bit of hard work and dedication. Let's show ourselves some more kindness and encouragement and release the negative narratives - living in love instead of fear, aligning with our truths and confidently moving forwards in the direction of our dreams.
For many of us, we have many regrets over unfulfilled ambitions. There are so many of us who keep on dreaming but do nothing about it. What is it that stops us from taking a leap and going for it? Fear, usually—and the little voice in our head that says we may not be any good. We may not even like it. It’s easier not to try.
I know that voice very well. I’ve had countless ideas with my friends, spending so much times brainstorming and getting excited about something but when it comes down to doing it fizzles away. Or being in a job that made me terribly unhappy but was afraid to leave. I’m more than sure many people can resonate with me here.
Sometimes we can be the victim of our own thoughts, overthinking, over analysing what may happen, fear of putting yourself out there, what people may think of us. Its most certainly the way to put yourself off doing something new.
I wrote a little bit previously on thoughts on change. For me my fear of trying something new came from feeling like i had failed at my past career. Since then, I often find myself in doubt to start doing new things like a personal project simply because I’m afraid of it not being good enough, or not working how I planned. I have missed out on quite a lot of opportunities I can get by not trusting myself more and just go for it. And if you asked me how I feel about it, I feel grateful! I feel I learned a lot towards the process and it taught me how to overcome fears, trust myself more and have the guts to do things.
I have recently been reading a great book called ‘The Chemistry of Connection’ by Patrick Holford. He speaks about karma being our memories with a negative emotion attached to it. For example, like myself, if you had tried to do something in the past but it had not worked as planned, your mind may of created a link between trying something new and failure. We have to work on undoing that thought and removing the link. One of my favourite quotes which has really stuck with me is ‘By undoing out store of karmic reactions - that is memories with negative emotions attached - we can be in control of our own destiny or actions of how we act to what happens.’
I think this is really important in all aspects of our life, Life is too short to let the noise of your negative thoughts drown out the positive. Instead of drowning in negativity why not explore it instead? Like Patricks quote above, many negative thoughts are connected to something else, and can be much deeper rooted. Ask yourself Whats really stopping you? Notice your own negative patterns and what triggers you to feel fear.
Once we can find this and take away the stress of overthinking learn to follow your heart and turn the thought into a positive, you would be surprised how many things fall in to place. If you still feel anxious, do it anyway. Its better to live on the edge rather than avoid all challenging situations. Every time we step into the discomfort of growth and progress, we become free. The more fears we walk through, the more power we reclaim. In this way, we grow both fearless and powerful and thus are able to live the lives of our dreams.